If you're searching for how to make a man fall in love with you, I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that you might be on your way to falling in love with him. Am I right? You're falling fast for this guy, and you can only hope that he feels the same, but how can you ensure that he is?
In this article, you're not going to find a bunch of ways to trick a man into falling in love with you. That's not how I operate. What you will find are strategies for how to make a man fall in love with you that I have seen work firsthand.
If you're here for the first time, allow me to introduce myself. My name is Adam LoDolce, and I have helped thousands of women find true love. I've worked as a dating coach for both men and women, and I've spoken at dozens of universities, where every single person in the audience walked away with tangible advice they could apply to dating and relationships. So, yea, I kinda know what I'm talking about.
But don't take it from me! Test out as many of the following strategies as you'd like and see if they work for you in learning how to make a man fall in love with you.
First, a Note on the Art of Patience
Before we get started, let me just say something about patience. If you have fallen for this guy, I understand that you're in a vulnerable place while you wait for him to catch up with you. Does he love you? Does he love you not? You'll do anything in your power to make him love you.
But pump the breaks a bit because if you rush things, you may blow it. Love takes time, and it comes to everyone at a different tempo. And sometimes it doesn't happen at all. Don't blame yourself. If he doesn't fall in love with you, it wasn't meant to be. I bet if you step away, you'll see a million reasons why that's true.
But give him time. All his past relationship experiences, along with his personality, will impact how long it takes him. If you truly love him, you'll wait.
100 Tips for How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You PART 1
Just like with all my dating and relationship advice, some of these tips on how to make a man fall in love with you may work better for you than others. You know yourself and what comes naturally, so apply the tips that make the most sense.
1. Make Him Feel Needed (But Don’t Be Needy)
Need him without being needy. Look, I know you’re an independent woman that doesn’t need a man, but the truth is…men like to feel needed. Chalk it up to our evolutionary past of being the provider and protector in the relationship. Sure, you can kill your spiders and change your tire, but that doesn’t mean you have to.
If you’ve been single for a while and have become accustomed to doing everything that needs doing, this may take a little practice and letting go, but the next time you have something that you know your man would excel at, ask for help. That’s all. Just ask for help. Not only will you give him purpose (after all, he’s trying to win your heart too, so doing something for you is huge), but you’ll also see how nice it is to lean on someone else, to rely on him to help you. It takes the load off of you for sure.
2. Let Him Miss You
I know if you’re falling for this guy, you want to spend every waking moment with him. And maybe he wants that too. But let’s ease into that 24/7 type of relationship, shall we?
Or better yet…never get to it. Having time apart is healthy for couples. It gives you each time to do things on your own or spend time with friends (don’t be that chick who abandons her friends whenever she’s in a relationship). It gives you something to talk about when you are together. Having time apart provides balance in the relationship, and it gives you both the opportunity to miss one another.
3. Compliment Him…Only if He Deserves It
Okay, to be clear, I am not suggesting you kiss this guy’s ass all the time. “Oh Bobby! That shirt looks amaaazing on you.” “Oh Bobby! You’re so strong!” “Oh Bobby! I don’t know what I’d do without you!” Not what we’re going for.
What I do want you to do is be free with the compliments. If you’re thinking in your head that he looks hot in that shirt, tell him! I’m not sure why it is, but most of us don’t compliment other people far enough, even when we’re thinking complimentary things. But think about how awesome you feel when someone compliments you.
Why wouldn’t you want to make the guy you care so much about feel that great? So whenever something positive sprouts up in your brain about how he looks, something witty he says, or something he’s done, let him know you appreciate it.
4. Let Your True Nature Shine
I’ve heard some so-called dating gurus tell women to dumb down their intellect or put a damper on their exuberant personalities. This is utter crap. If you do that, then the guy has one impression of who you are that is entirely inaccurate. Once you get to know each other and you start being real, he might be thrown off when he discovers that, whoa, you’re actually intelligent or opinionated.
The right guy will love you for who you are. That’s right. No need to pretend your IQ isn’t off the charts or that you’re not a control freak. Let your control or otherwise freak flag fly. That way, he knows exactly what he’s getting into from the start. If he’s into it? Great. He’ll be that much more likely to fall in love with you.
5. Admire His Masculinity
Just like men like to be needed, they also like it when you admire how masculine they are. But again, I’m not saying you need to squeeze his muscles and faint every time you see him! Masculinity isn’t just about testosterone and muscles. It’s about treating people well, being chivalrous, and acting with honor. Like the Norman Mailer quote above says. Real masculinity is being vulnerable and empathetic. It’s being a good partner. So whatever it means to you, let him know that you admire these qualities. If nothing else, it will start an interesting dialogue on what it means to be a man in this day and age.
6. Be Patient
I talked about the importance of being patient as part of the process of learning how to make a man fall in love with you, but I can’t say enough about it. If you feel like you’ll explode if you don’t profess your love for him, heed this advice. Tell a friend how you feel.
She’ll support you but also help you analyze whether your lovegush will be reciprocated or not. If she doesn’t feel like he’s exhibiting the signs of being in love with you yet, she’ll tell you and you can save yourself from the embarrassment of a one-sided love profession (the worst!).
I’m not saying the man always has to be the one to say “I love you” first, but you do want to give him time to process his feelings on the subject. Just think how much better it would be if, when the pronouncement does happen, regardless of who says it first, you both say it. If you rush this, you may be disappointed.
Keep that in mind. If you’re still desperate to let someone know, journal about it. This will help you process your feelings. And it never hurts to sit on them for a while. In the early stages of a relationship, it can sometimes be difficult to discern between love and lust, so by giving your love time to marinate, you can be 100% sure that it is love before you make yourself vulnerable.
7. Let Him Know You’re Thinking of Him
I know in the early days of dating a new guy, you might try to have a poker face. After all, you aren’t sure if this is going to turn into a relationship, so you might be hesitant to tell him that you’re thinking of him.
Well, the rules have changed now that things are progressing, and it’s actually in your favor to tell him he’s on your mind. Just like with compliments, if you like it, he will too.
You blush from your head to your toe whenever he tells you that he’s thinking of you, so why not reciprocate? Here are a few texts you could send to make him smile.
- Saw a corgi today [his favorite dog] and it made me think of you!
- Sigh. I can’t get any work done today. Just keep replaying our last date…
- Just wanted to say hi, since you’re on my mind!
None of these are overboard. They’re just little pings to tell him that you’re thinking about him. They’ll make him smile, I guarantee!
8. Be Supportive of His Interests and Efforts
Look, you don’t have to suddenly feign an interest in disc golf, rock climbing, or fishing if you’re not already into them, but if your guy has hobbies or interests, one way to successfully learn how to make a man fall in love with you is to be supportive. If he goes on a fishing trip, ask what he caught. If he’s going to the rock climbing gym, ask how his workout went.
You’re not pretending you’re all about these interests; you’re just showing that you respect that he’s got things he’s into, and you’re inquiring about them. A scientific study showed that people like people who ask questions, particularly followup questions.
Followup questions show that you’re paying attention and that you’re genuinely interested. So don’t stop with simply asking him how that fishing trip went. If he tells you that he caught a tuna, ask him what fresh tuna tastes like. Ask who he went fishing with.
Ask what kind of bait he uses. Especially if you don’t know a lot about his hobby, he’d be happy to teach you if you’re express curiosity. Likewise, be supportive of what he’s doing. If you know he’s got a job interview this week, send a text beforehand letting him know you’re rooting for him, then check in with him after to see how it went.
One of the foundations of a loving relationship is support; when you show your partner that you’re there for him as his biggest cheerleader, he feels great. And when you support him, you’re starting to glom onto how to make a man fall in love with you.